The REAL Issue of Black and White

There’s something very specific that happens the day after Labor Day.

Now, you probably read the title of this post and thought, “Ah yes, big after Labor Day sales at the big, fabulous retail chains”.

If so, you’d be wrong.

The title is more about my mother and her fashion backward thinking, than anything else. You see, my sainted mater was/is a stickler for that old, “No wearing anything white after Labor Day/no wearing black after Easter” routine. It was so driven into my head that if I see someone clad in white later today, I’ll have a visceral reaction. I try to fight it, but it’s ingrained. It’s part of my core being.

I have learned to be far more forgiving of this, but my mother needless to say, is older than old school. She will not negotiate on her opinion of this formidable fashion faux pas, despite the fact that Cosmo, Glamor and a cadre of designers, along with tragically hip and chic gay men have deemed it to be no longer applicable in the world of modern haute couture.

“They’re wrong”, says Mother.


What happens on the day after Labor Day in my mother’s house, is as predictable as the phases of the moon; as predictable as knowing Brad and Angelina adopt in years ending in odd numbers and as predictable as knowing emphatically that pudgy Hollywood galoot and shit stirrer, Michael Moore never skips a meal.

If it is the day after Labor Day, then my mother will be doing what she always does. She’ll spend five to six hours of the 24 that Father Time gives us, by rearranging her closet. She’ll remove all things white, light and summery and replaced them with all things heavy, dark and wintry.

That which is taken away is carefully wrapped in white tissue paper and put in cardboard boxes or in plastic multi-drawer compartments, then placed in a shelf in her closet, never to appear again until Peter Cottontail emerges from his springtime sabbatical to hide brightly colored ova in deserving front yards.


My sisters and I were raised as proper Texas young ladies. Karnes City, Texas to be exact. Our hair was shampooed and our skin was scrubbed clean until our skin glowed (and considering the vast amounts of uranium that found in subterranean South Texas in the late 50’s and early 60’s, I mean that both figuratively AND literally). We were impeccably dressed. Shirts that were flawlessly pressed and pants with creases so sharp, you could use them to slice with deli-like precision, anything canned by Hormel.

Our dresses were designed and sewn to perfection and then there was the full compliment of couture accoutrement por le petite femmes–I’m talking gloves, lace socks, crinoline petticoats, patent-leather Mary Janes with matching bags and of course, hats in church. You see, we were Catholic and this was South Texas and pre-Vatican II.

We took tap and ballet and piano lessons and voice lessons and we each learned to play an instrument and were all cheerleaders and the list of parental requirements and mandates that we HAD to achieve and/or accomplish before we reached the age of majority, reads like a scroll.

My mother poked and prodded and made me read and write and think and create. By the 7th grade, I knew things most college Sophomores didn’t. That’s the way it was. I was considered to be high brow and rather haughty.

My mother’s fiendish plot to isolate me socially was working.

In fact, my senior year in High School, I was voted, “Most Likely To Wear A Monocle”.


You know that “black after Labor Day/white after Easter” stuff I mentioned in the prologue? Well, it carried over in our lives; not just with what we wore. It was about how we lived; it was about the way we lived.

Again, I will reiterate- my mother was a stickler.

At summer picnics, I was forbidden to eat a sandwich that was made on Rye or Pumpernickel and I was ONLY allowed to date Black guys from September through mid April.



  1. I remember those days when she would only let you date black guys Sept – Apr.!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Good ‘ol Nonie.

  2. I have no idea why, but this post makes me think of breakfast, Bellaire Blvd. that and oil, Shell Oil. Houston, the only place you can have breakfast next to a place that you have no idea why they’re co-located.

    LK, if you can explain Houston “zoning laws” or lack thereof it’ll be funny.

  3. Gee Allen,

    Know what would be “funnier”? If you could attempt to even try to explain why this post would remind you of breakfast and Houston zoning laws?

    I can’t even begin to fathom how or why you made this connection.


  4. Let’s not forget how she carefully ironed our satin hair ribbons, too. If our white patent shoes needed polishing, we had the messy task. Remember? Or were you too young to do that? Before Laurie was born, Kathy and I had black velvet dress shoes called Alexis Dress-Ups. These were designated for winter only. We couldn’t go play in them because the velvet could rub off and leave bald spots.

    Yes, mother was a stickler when it came to how we looked. Always.

  5. Yes, MJ. We are all lost sisters in a big way. Were you brought up in the late 50s/early 60s? If so, that would make us related by virtue of the era.

  6. Allen what the hell are you talking about. Your comment doesn’t EVEN relate to this post!!!????!!!!

  7. I remember all to well, those days! I even remember when I would visit my Dad’s church ( which was Catholic). I would have a freshly iron scarf or handkerchief on my head for the Catholic church. Lord help me, if I had wore my bright RED shoes for Easter sunday! Yes, those were the days!

  8. We were raised Catholic and way back when we had to wear hats or veils. Mother would take such care in selecting hats to match our dresses. I remember one Easter I had a white dress trimmed in navy so my hat was white with a navy ribbon around the brim.

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