Angels Unawares

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(Republished by special request)

I woke up this morning pissed. Inexplicably angry.

As the day progressed, so did the depth of my rage.

I puttered around the house, wishing several former boyfriends Tetanus, until I realized what I was feeling was keeping me from being productive. I looked in my kitchen pantry. It was bare, even the stuff that the previous tenants left was gone. I had to go to the grocery store. Spending money I don’t have always seems to lift my spirits.

I put on a shirt, some comfy elastic-waist jeans to accommodate my love handles—now with Kung Fu grip—slipped into some flip flops and headed toward River Oaks.

That, my non-Houston readers, is a very posh neighborhood. Old oil money mostly…well, old for Southeast Texas. There’s a grocery store in the shadow of River Oaks that’s to die for! It’s in the heart of Texas’ hard core WASP land, but its a lovely edifice as grocery stores go. Everything is tasteful and the inventory is marked up to dizzying heights, but the selection is huge and the staff treats customers with ass wiping impeccability. You want for nothing while patronizing that store.

Shopping there is a rare indulgence.

And if there was ever a day to be self indulgent, it was today. My mood was consuming me.

I pulled in the store’s parking lot, opting not to let the Valet park my delightful six year old Ford with one hubcap that bent outwards.

It looks like one of Stephen Colbert’s ears.

The doorman opened the door for me; the concierge greeted me with a smile.

I started shopping.

Meat, fish, some veggies. A roasted chicken. A few canned goods.

I then turned into the “Import Aisle”. I love couscous and there I was standing next to (as best as I could tell) two Farsi speaking chadors with tiny little women inside them. All three of us were trying to reach the couscous on the top shelf, but to no avail.

Let me describe the height challenged scenario for you: I’m 5’1″ and I was the tallest of this little trio. Finally, a nice, tall man strolled by and fetched all the boxes we needed.

I spoke briefly with the women in their broken English. We laughed about the rigors of being short in a tall world.

We were getting along famously, then they saw it.

In my cart—a package of pork chops, six for $5.65.

I’m not sure, but I think I now know how to say “infidel” in Farsi.

As they pushed their cart on down the Import aisle with an indignation that will prompt another post someday, I was struck by something: right there, next to each other was a section for Kosher food and beside, it… Halal. Co-existing, co-mingling…even touching. I saw a misplaced box of Matzo next to some olives.

I thought to myself, “Why can’t these two cultures; these sons and daughters of Abraham, get along like the food in this Import aisle???”

Just then, another cart rammed into mine and one gruff looking man, obviously in a hurry to rush back to his house to feed four Chief Justices visiting for the weekend, snarled at me and spurted out, “Would you mind?”

And in that tone, too.

I really didn’t need the attitude. Not today. It has been a really bad nine months. Loss, grief, rejection… now this?? An asshole in a pair of black Bruno Magli’s!??!?

Oh, hell no!

I was losing faith in mankind.

Onward…..

I got what I needed and meandered over the part of the store where the 2o-checkout registers lived. Each one I swear, had a line of at least six carts filled to the brim. Their human motors standing there with arms folded, hands on hips…waiting.

Patiently.

Rich, white people can be ridiculously civilized.

I pulled into a random checkout aisle and positioned my cart to wait with the other Gentiles. I was behind an older woman who was neatly dressed. She was thin with white hair done up in a tasteful coif. She noticed me out of the corner of her eye and actually turned around. I stood there looking at her and she smiled. I couldn’t help but smile back.

She then asked, “Well, how are you today?”

I paused for a second and actually contemplated that answer. Usually, I’d respond with a patent “Just fine thanks…and you?” But I didn’t.

Instead I said, “I’ve been better. It’s been one of those years”.

She continued to smile and said, “I understand. We’ve all had them. How can we appreciate the sweet if we don’t taste the bitter”.

“True” was my response. No earth shattering logic there.

Then she added–completely out of the blue, “I suspect that a lovely young woman like you tends to over-think things. I’d even venture a guess that you seek answers to questions that don’t even exist. If I’m right Sweetie, spare yourself the heartache. Sometimes things just happen. No rhyme or reason. Ours is not to question and sometimes, ours isn’t to try and answer either”.

I looked at her for a minute…forehead furrowed in confusion. Who was this woman? Was I that obvious? Have the problems and issues in my life become so apparent that they’ve actually physically manifested and raised to the point of being palpable? Like some weird form of emotional Braille, readable only to a select, insightful few???

I just stood there, saying nothing, yet I could “feel” my expression: lips slightly pursed, eyes narrowed—the lines in my forehead were starting to entrench;  efforting to take up permanent residence.

I must’ve looked like Simon Bar Sinister.

“I have something for you”, she said as she reached into her Marc Jacobs purse—not that I was looking— and pulled out a folded piece of paper from a zippered compartment.

“Here you go.” She handed it to me.

As I took it from her she said, , “Someone gave this to me when my husband and son died in an accident ten years ago. It helped me a great deal, so I decided that I would pass this wisdom along to whoever needed it. And I think you need it”.

I felt no need to question her. I put in my purse and said, “Thank you”.

As she handed the check out clerk her credit card, she turned and looked at me and said, “A couple more things: for reasons that will become obvious, don’t read it until you get home. And please, pass this along to whoever you think might need it.”

With that she smiled and put her hand on top of mine. “I promise you, life is good. Savor it. Bad times are only tough when you’re going through them”.

And she walked out of the store— a concierge appointed Bag Boy following close behind with her groceries in tow.

I checked out, paid $100 dollars more than I would have anywhere else, but had the honors of a young, acne-faced, aproned teen named “Todd” escort me and my sundries to my proletariat chariot.

I drove home wanting to read the piece of paper, but I didn’t. I would abide by the old broad’s wishes. I finally arrived in my parking lot, grabbed my bags and went inside.

I reached in my purse, unfolded the piece of paper and held it on one hand as I began to read. I started putting groceries away with the other.

This is what it said:

“People come into your life for a reason—for a season or for a lifetime.

When someone is in your life for a reason, it’s usually to meet a need you’ve expressed to God, the Universe…call it what you will.  They come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, fiscally, emotionally or spiritually. Sometimes they act defiantly and force you to take a stand. They’ll make you mad; they’ll confound you. They might even hurt or wound you deeply. They are a Godsend, though you might not realize that  at first.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or seemingly at the most inconvenient time possible, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.     Sometimes they move, sometimes they just leave; they walk away…and sometimes they die.

What we must realize is that once our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it’s time for both of you to move on.

Some people come into your life for a season because your turn to receive. They bring you peace of mind, well being or they make you laugh. They’ll bring you joy.

Your job is to accept the lesson and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and in every area of your life.

So allow for the sad and wait for the happy. Like seasons, one always comes after the other.

That’s life’s guarantee”.

I stood there, the paper in one hand and a new tube of toothpaste in the other. I understood why she advised not to read it until I got home. It would’ve been tough trying to drive through tears.

What a dear lady she was.

An angel.

I put the toothpaste in a drawer in the bathroom and smiled.

I finally understood a few things.

I miss my best friend, Walter. His recent death still shakes me to my core. I miss PM, too. For the last few weeks, I’ve been struggling with the pain of their departures and trying to figure out why they were in my life for such a short time.

Now I know.

They were seasonal; in my life for one brief season and one season only. They entered my life with a predetermined exit strategy they didn’t know existed. Both taught me very important, vital things. But, as the manuscript said—once lessons have been learned, it’s time to let go….

And move on.

Arrivals and departures; beginnings and endings….seasons and reasons.

I finished putting my groceries away and stood there, absorbing my newfound clarity.

I decided to take a shower.

It had been a warm day; September is caught in summer’s last clutches. I turned off the kitchen light before heading to the bathroom.  I noticed that it’s starting to get darker much earlier.

The seasons are changing.

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23 comments

  1. As a listener, I fell in love with your voice.
    As a reader, I’ve fallen in love with your words.

    I always get the better end of the deal with you, Kendrick. You never fail to dazzle me with your wit and your talent, both of which I never want to consume in moderation. I’ll always want more.

    This was beautiful.

  2. Hi there,

    I don’t know what lead me to this post, but I have to believe it was Divine intervention. I just signed on to wordpress and decided to browse through some of the blogs when my eyes caught the “love” category. I clicked on the link and randomly chose your post. As I read the post, I couldn’t stop thinking how much your story paralleled mine. I’ve had great loss in my life and for a while now I’ve been trying to make sense of it all. How can people just move on?

    How can friendships,intimacies,relationships just turn to dust? I believe your manuscript said it best and said it wisely.

    Thank you

    Madam Soho

  3. Thanks for dropping by my blog and commenting. I’d love to know how you came across it. I have read this post of yours and was caught up in memories of Houston. Langham Creek class of 97 here. Mom has a place on West Clay behind the twin Starbucks.

    You have a way with words and I shall certainly return…

    Boerne???

  4. while we’re being nostalgic, stumbling down memory lane, I figured I’d stop by for old time’s sake. Good mourning, Keyland! Hope you all are in good health and doing well. I will refrain from making any disparaging remarks pertaining to Laurie’s sexual preferrences, on my own accord. I remember this being one of the first posts I read over here. Good Stuff, LK, it’s still good stuff.

    the keywork.

  5. Thanks for the post. This was an excellent and timely reminder for me to let go of some of the things in my life that I had assumed would be more permanent.

    For what it’s worth, I think that we sometimes fight letting go, simply because we’re not willing to accept an outcome that doesn’t work according to what we envisioned/planned.

    Grace and peace be with you.

  6. Laurie-

    I think it was you who shared the advice of that note with me a while back. Thank you so very much for posting this. It’s truly a sensational story.

    LS

  7. Thanks for sharing that side of you.

    Yep. I get a crappy year (as you know from my last blog).

  8. Thanks, LK for reposting this story, it still brings tears to my eyes, again. The note does give you hope and love from above. Keep up the GREAT work!

  9. You have a very faith-full perspective (I’m not sure how much you realize that). If you add Christ into the equation, the whole life/death/rebirth becomes abundantly clear.

    Thanks for sharing your story.

  10. Hi LK,

    Excellent article, as always. Thanks for the humor.

    I have had a bad decade so I understand what you are talking about. My daughter lives in Houston so I know a little of the places you may at times mention.

    Be safe and healthy.

  11. Hi Laurie,

    I just read this to my partner as my son was fast alseep to my right. I laughed and cried as he held his head down, clutched into his hands.

    The road ahead feels so scary…but as I told myself yesterday, even if the only reason for my now partner to come into my life was for me to have my son… Then oh, thank you. UNIVERSE. I will forever be grateful.

    I now must begin dealing with and letting go of the plan that was for us all to be a family.

    Spirit Bless You, Beautiful Woman.

  12. Hey Laurie,
    It’s funny how things connect, isn’t it? Lately, I’ve had a whole chain of events that keep linking to more chains, all driving the same message home. This added another link to the chain. Thanks, honey.
    WC

  13. Come on, you people out there with some sort of influence-(talent agents, editors, etc) if you haven’t caught on to Lauire’s talent by now, then I’ve lost faith in the profession of Journalism and Publishing.

    You all just don’t know what this woman is capable of producing (in more ways than one!) Seriously, I know that I am prejudiced and will always be her “big” sister, but her other sis, Karol, and I are her biggest and oldest fans. We’ve known her all her life. She’s extremely gifted as a writer.

    Hey Laur, I think it’s time to publish that “special post” you and I talked about….I think I am ready to respond.

  14. Wow. All I can say is wow. And dry my tears, and print out that passage, and be grateful that YOU exist and have reached across the internet to help a poor soul like me.

    You are a beautiful spirit Laurie…

    Thank you for passing this along.

    Many blessings,

    Casey

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